Most people find it difficult to distinguish between love and infatuation. Love is felling of intimacy and commitment to someone whom you care for. While infatuation is a strong passion for somebody that prevents one from thinking in a sensible way. Someone in love can say the reason for being in love, but an infatuated fellow cannot say why he or she is in love. Infatuation is not true love. It is a blind love that goes hand in hand with lust.
How then do we know when we are in love or just infatuated? When you become unnecessarily excited when a particular guy or lady is around, it is a sign that you are in love. It is not natural for someone to be happy whenever a particular person is around, it is a sign that he or she is in love. It is unnatural for someone to be excited whenever every guy or lady is around. Someone can only get excited when somebody he or she loves is around. We only get excited only when we are with some we love. For example, a woman will get excited only when a man she loves is around. If he or she is always on your mind, you get excited for being around him or her, it shows that you are in love with him or her.
People don’t usually think of things that are not important to them. When something is on you mind constantly, then that thing is likely to be important to you. If you become conscious of your looks just because you think he or she may admire you, it shows that you really feel something for him or her. Most people don’t dress or make up for the fun of dressing. They dress and make up because they wish to be seen and admired by someone special to them. If you feel sad, unhappy or jealousy when you see him or her in the company of other opposite sex. It is a sign of strong feeling for him or her. Similarly, when you see a lady or guy you don’t have feeling for, in the company of other opposite sex, you will not be moved, but the moment you see the one you admire in the mist of other opposite sex, a feeling of jealousy will overtake your mind.
Finally if you feel free to discuss your private life with him, it shows the confidence and absolute trust you have in him. You will not go ahead to discuss your personal life with someone you don’t have any feeling or whatsoever for. It is also important to note that someone who is infatuated also reacts like someone in love. You may be excited when the guy or lady you admire is around; think about him or her every now and then, be conscious of your looks, be jealous of him or her when in the company of the opposite sex and feel free to discuss your private life, but may not care so much for him or her that you would want to do anything that would make him or her happy. For instance, if a woman strives to make a man happy and always encourage and support him when he’s down, it shows that she feels something unique for him. This unique feeling is love not infatuation.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Sunday, October 18, 2009
>>Breakup With Ease.
It doesn’t matter how long you have been together (whether for a very long or short time), breakups hurt and it also effects our emotions. This is whether you’re aware or not of its effects, breakups do affect us. It can’t be easy to get over breakup. Research has proved It, that it takes half of the time you’ve being together or even more than, to get over him or her. These tips will help you overcome breakup with a smile.
1- Cease any form of communication:
The most important ingredient of any relationship is communication. The moment communication is affected in any relationship; the relationship is heading to crash. You may think that you can handle it but you’re just joking, you can’t. Trying to get over it will only hurt you the more. Get over him or her for the mean time, you may someday in the future become friends again. Until after this, lick your wounds and recover any way you would like; whether spending absurd money buying clothes you don’t need, partying hard or staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream. Though these ways may sound weird to you, but it works.
2- Try to get over him or her:
Those good times shared together, those sweet words, those interests you share, those attractions may be hard to forget, but the earlier you get over all these the better for you. For instance, that little spot in the park that you two went to, on your first date used to be “yours”. Well, they are not any more. Never try connecting to any platonic objects, when there isn’t one. Let yourself to know that, that spot in the park is a beautiful place to relax, not because of anybody connected to it. You don’t need to loose more than you have suffering from breakup, so don’t get silly on yourself.
3- Reconnect with your friends:
No matter how you may view it, no one will refer to you as that girl or that guy that gives up her or his friends for his girl friend or her boy friend. Everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with her boy friend or his girl friend. Go outing with your friends and never cease from having fun and then, you will see how much fun it is being single.
Take some time for yourself:
In the mist of all these not communicating with him or her, partying more or eating more of ice cream and hanging out with your friends-you need time to seat back and talk to yourself concerning your feelings. Try to understand why things went wrong and why you are better of the way you are living presently. In no time believe me, you will be a better person than you use to be and what is his or her name will be a thing of the past.
1- Cease any form of communication:
The most important ingredient of any relationship is communication. The moment communication is affected in any relationship; the relationship is heading to crash. You may think that you can handle it but you’re just joking, you can’t. Trying to get over it will only hurt you the more. Get over him or her for the mean time, you may someday in the future become friends again. Until after this, lick your wounds and recover any way you would like; whether spending absurd money buying clothes you don’t need, partying hard or staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream. Though these ways may sound weird to you, but it works.
2- Try to get over him or her:
Those good times shared together, those sweet words, those interests you share, those attractions may be hard to forget, but the earlier you get over all these the better for you. For instance, that little spot in the park that you two went to, on your first date used to be “yours”. Well, they are not any more. Never try connecting to any platonic objects, when there isn’t one. Let yourself to know that, that spot in the park is a beautiful place to relax, not because of anybody connected to it. You don’t need to loose more than you have suffering from breakup, so don’t get silly on yourself.
3- Reconnect with your friends:
No matter how you may view it, no one will refer to you as that girl or that guy that gives up her or his friends for his girl friend or her boy friend. Everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with her boy friend or his girl friend. Go outing with your friends and never cease from having fun and then, you will see how much fun it is being single.
Take some time for yourself:
In the mist of all these not communicating with him or her, partying more or eating more of ice cream and hanging out with your friends-you need time to seat back and talk to yourself concerning your feelings. Try to understand why things went wrong and why you are better of the way you are living presently. In no time believe me, you will be a better person than you use to be and what is his or her name will be a thing of the past.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
>>Signs Of Infidelity.
Are you nursing some suspicious feeling of infidelity in your relationship? Maybe you've already taken note of some warning signs of infidelity. You're in love with your partner and want to trust him or her, but certain things don't really meet your expectations. Let me tell you, first of all you should not be blamed. Your lover's cheating is absolutely not your fault! Nothing deserves cheating in a relationship, that's all. If your partner is cheating on you, you deserve so much better than that! Read on to the 3 (three) signs of infidelity below if you're ready to catch your cheater.
1. Beware of White Liars:
Those small lies about seemingly unimportant things is one of the first warning signs of infidelity. These can simply be about when he paid the power bill, or whether she "forgot" she had a date with you. Cheaters always feel like they have to cover their tracks, so they will lie about things they would not usually lie about, in order to be free from possible suspicion.
2. Looking Good, Feeling Not:
Your lover has begun to take better care of their looks and hygiene, however your sex life has noticeably deteriorated. He or she is always happy whereas your relationship is not healthy. She's spending more time wearing make up and wearing sexier clothes, or he's using cologne, shaving and wearing nice shirts. (By the way, do you know where those new clothes came from?) And yet they're not in the mood for intimacy as often as they used to be. Doesn't make sense, does it? These warning signs of infidelity are a possible indicator of seeing someone on the side.
3. Highly paranoiac these days:
As a cheater he or she feels like they have to cover all their bases to ensure they don't seem suspicious in any regard. So if you say something that gives a hint of doubt, they may answer defensively. For instance, you could say jokingly, "I know where you really where last night", and your lover may react like, "What are you talking about? What do you mean?" They could even accuse you of cheating! These warning signs of infidelity may be slight, but they are still important.
So you've looked at these warning signs of infidelity and feel even more sure. Now what do you do? I can say one thing for certain: don't confront your lover right away. Gather your emotions and evidence first. If you accuse them and come off as unstable and emotional, the cheater will be in control.
They will take the opportunity to appear calm, collected, and rational, while you are a mess. Don't give them this opportunity! Pretend you don't suspect a thing like that and they will get over confidence or take you for granted, making it more likely to make a mistake and give you more warning signs of infidelity. Gather up these warning signs of infidelity. Express yourself to a close friend or family member (who you're sure you're partner isn't involved with) so you don't feel like an emotional time bomb ready to explode.
1. Beware of White Liars:
Those small lies about seemingly unimportant things is one of the first warning signs of infidelity. These can simply be about when he paid the power bill, or whether she "forgot" she had a date with you. Cheaters always feel like they have to cover their tracks, so they will lie about things they would not usually lie about, in order to be free from possible suspicion.
2. Looking Good, Feeling Not:
Your lover has begun to take better care of their looks and hygiene, however your sex life has noticeably deteriorated. He or she is always happy whereas your relationship is not healthy. She's spending more time wearing make up and wearing sexier clothes, or he's using cologne, shaving and wearing nice shirts. (By the way, do you know where those new clothes came from?) And yet they're not in the mood for intimacy as often as they used to be. Doesn't make sense, does it? These warning signs of infidelity are a possible indicator of seeing someone on the side.
3. Highly paranoiac these days:
As a cheater he or she feels like they have to cover all their bases to ensure they don't seem suspicious in any regard. So if you say something that gives a hint of doubt, they may answer defensively. For instance, you could say jokingly, "I know where you really where last night", and your lover may react like, "What are you talking about? What do you mean?" They could even accuse you of cheating! These warning signs of infidelity may be slight, but they are still important.
So you've looked at these warning signs of infidelity and feel even more sure. Now what do you do? I can say one thing for certain: don't confront your lover right away. Gather your emotions and evidence first. If you accuse them and come off as unstable and emotional, the cheater will be in control.
They will take the opportunity to appear calm, collected, and rational, while you are a mess. Don't give them this opportunity! Pretend you don't suspect a thing like that and they will get over confidence or take you for granted, making it more likely to make a mistake and give you more warning signs of infidelity. Gather up these warning signs of infidelity. Express yourself to a close friend or family member (who you're sure you're partner isn't involved with) so you don't feel like an emotional time bomb ready to explode.
>>How To Keep Your Woman Smiling.
Is your woman happy because of the way you treat her? If "no" then, take some lessons for your relationship. Be yourself, Many men don’t feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on a show. But a confident man is the sexiest man around. Have you ever noticed that some of the guys classified as the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest or hot women around? There is some level of confidence that they display and women value confidence than physical looks.
Always do the little things for her. For instance, offering to take her car to the car wash from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures”, when it is the little things add up to make a long relationships. Do not deny your woman that little kindness and courtesies, they are so important. The little things are the big things, In your relationship.
You must appreciate her, it's your responsibility. Never take her for granted. Let her know that you value her more than anything. You should try to make her laugh. Women value men with sense of humor than those good looking guys. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.
Never stare at other women when you are with her or she will think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re gazing at. Women don’t understand the whole concept of “the day I stop looking is the day I die.” This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner, a man with whom they can raise children. They can’t help it. That’s how evolution designed them. So minimize that your desirous look, especially whenever she’s around.
Never allow your interest to differ from that of your woman. It will be great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it will still be of great help if you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for local movies, as the case may be. This will show her how much you care about her and she will love you exceptionally for that.
Never stop just because she is all yours – at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave when it is necessary. Keep up to date in fashion trends for men. In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.
She can introduce you to her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her choice of man. Try hard.
Never try to upset her unnecessarily and you should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than men. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.
Finally, trying new things always to give your relationship new lease of life, never routinize your relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship is getting boring, shake things up. Try something new. It will be of great help to the health of your relationship.
Always do the little things for her. For instance, offering to take her car to the car wash from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures”, when it is the little things add up to make a long relationships. Do not deny your woman that little kindness and courtesies, they are so important. The little things are the big things, In your relationship.
You must appreciate her, it's your responsibility. Never take her for granted. Let her know that you value her more than anything. You should try to make her laugh. Women value men with sense of humor than those good looking guys. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.
Never stare at other women when you are with her or she will think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re gazing at. Women don’t understand the whole concept of “the day I stop looking is the day I die.” This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner, a man with whom they can raise children. They can’t help it. That’s how evolution designed them. So minimize that your desirous look, especially whenever she’s around.
Never allow your interest to differ from that of your woman. It will be great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it will still be of great help if you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for local movies, as the case may be. This will show her how much you care about her and she will love you exceptionally for that.
Never stop just because she is all yours – at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave when it is necessary. Keep up to date in fashion trends for men. In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.
She can introduce you to her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her choice of man. Try hard.
Never try to upset her unnecessarily and you should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than men. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.
Finally, trying new things always to give your relationship new lease of life, never routinize your relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship is getting boring, shake things up. Try something new. It will be of great help to the health of your relationship.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
>>Sex In A Relationship.
If you're in a relationship with a guy and you delay having sex, will it help strengthen your relationship? Will it actually hurt your chance of the relationship getting serious, or will it help it? How long, exactly, should you make him wait? Sex is an important part of any relationship, as it is widely accepted. However, sex also can brings a lot of other complications in a relationship as well. If you want to have a serious relationship with a man but are unsure as to when you should sleep with him, i urge you to read further to find out if delaying having sex with a man will help strengthen your relationship.
It is not widely accepted at a cultural and also religious level to have sexual relationship with a man whom you are not married to. More and more women are embracing their sexuality and even becoming empowered by it. Even having more than one sexual partner is not as taboo as it used to be.
However, because more women are embracing thier sexuality does not necessarily mean that you should do it, especially if it is a serious relationship that you are searching for. If you are simply looking for physical satisfaction and are seeking casual partners, then sleeping with a man fairly soon in a relationship is not too bad. If you are looking for something more permanent, however, then it makes sense to practice some constraint and to delay having sex with him until the time is right.
So why should you wait until the time is right?
Well, for one thing, at the beginning of the relationship it's sometimes difficult to know what a man's motives are. Some men are simply out looking for a good time, while others are looking for a more serious commitment but don't know how to communicate that. Until you know what his intentions are, you should probably hold out when it comes to sex.
Delaying sex with a new man in your life will also give you the chance to get to know the man better on an emotional level, which is a really great foundation for a serious relationship. If you jump right into the sheets with him, it's difficult to build a lasting relationship on that foundation.
Sex can be fun and everyone has physical needs. However, you should remember that it is worth waiting for and that you don't have to rush into anything that you are not ready for. If you delay having sex with a man, it can give both of you a chance to get to know one another more which can eventually lead to a promising and fulfilling relationship ahead.
It is not widely accepted at a cultural and also religious level to have sexual relationship with a man whom you are not married to. More and more women are embracing their sexuality and even becoming empowered by it. Even having more than one sexual partner is not as taboo as it used to be.
However, because more women are embracing thier sexuality does not necessarily mean that you should do it, especially if it is a serious relationship that you are searching for. If you are simply looking for physical satisfaction and are seeking casual partners, then sleeping with a man fairly soon in a relationship is not too bad. If you are looking for something more permanent, however, then it makes sense to practice some constraint and to delay having sex with him until the time is right.
So why should you wait until the time is right?
Well, for one thing, at the beginning of the relationship it's sometimes difficult to know what a man's motives are. Some men are simply out looking for a good time, while others are looking for a more serious commitment but don't know how to communicate that. Until you know what his intentions are, you should probably hold out when it comes to sex.
Delaying sex with a new man in your life will also give you the chance to get to know the man better on an emotional level, which is a really great foundation for a serious relationship. If you jump right into the sheets with him, it's difficult to build a lasting relationship on that foundation.
Sex can be fun and everyone has physical needs. However, you should remember that it is worth waiting for and that you don't have to rush into anything that you are not ready for. If you delay having sex with a man, it can give both of you a chance to get to know one another more which can eventually lead to a promising and fulfilling relationship ahead.
>>Know What He Wants- Sex Or A Partner?
Do you feel like you are really falling hard for a new guy in your life? You know that he is attracted to you, but does he really want a relationship or are you just someone that he wants to have fun with? If you don't feel like asking him is the right way to find out then here is what you can do instead.
If you have decided not to just ask the guy outright, then you probably know men better than you think you do. You have made the right decision, because if there is one subject that men hate to talk about it is romance. This is especially true of questions about whether or not and how much he likes a girl.
Though all hope is not lost since you can still find the answer without even having to ask http://www.blogger.com/him about it and potentially scare him away. Besides, you should know that action they say, speaks louder than word. Like you know talk is cheap these days. Anyone can say anything, but it is the way that a guy acts that tells you if he wants a relationship with you or not.
If a guy makes it a point to try to spend real quality time with you, then he probably wants a relationship. When a guy likes a girl he will do whatever he can to impress her and make her want to see him again. However, if he is always calling you last minute to hang out at his place and watch television, then he is not trying hard and not taking you seriously.
Does he want a relationship enough to agree with you when you tell him that you are not going to sleep with him early on? Guys who just want to be with a woman to get her in bed will probably take off once they find out that the girl is not going to sleep with him right off. This is because he can not get what he wants. So if you tell him that it could be months before you are ready and he seems fine with that, that is the best indication that he does want a relationship with you.
If you have decided not to just ask the guy outright, then you probably know men better than you think you do. You have made the right decision, because if there is one subject that men hate to talk about it is romance. This is especially true of questions about whether or not and how much he likes a girl.
Though all hope is not lost since you can still find the answer without even having to ask http://www.blogger.com/him about it and potentially scare him away. Besides, you should know that action they say, speaks louder than word. Like you know talk is cheap these days. Anyone can say anything, but it is the way that a guy acts that tells you if he wants a relationship with you or not.
If a guy makes it a point to try to spend real quality time with you, then he probably wants a relationship. When a guy likes a girl he will do whatever he can to impress her and make her want to see him again. However, if he is always calling you last minute to hang out at his place and watch television, then he is not trying hard and not taking you seriously.
Does he want a relationship enough to agree with you when you tell him that you are not going to sleep with him early on? Guys who just want to be with a woman to get her in bed will probably take off once they find out that the girl is not going to sleep with him right off. This is because he can not get what he wants. So if you tell him that it could be months before you are ready and he seems fine with that, that is the best indication that he does want a relationship with you.
>>How Happy Are You A Couple?
Everybody both married or those in a long-term committed relationship comes to know that at a time there is a danger of falling into a dull routine. The increasing number of marriage advice and relationship help books is a clear indication that couples are eagerly searching for ways to solve relationship problems and keep their relationship running on a soother platform. But the question is "can marriage problems and painful relationship issues be always inevitable"?
Absolutely not-there are steps and tips you can adhere to, and it will prevent marital problems from taking hold and these steps can also help improve an already strong relationship.
5 (FIVE)steps to a stronger relationship:
1. Never let frustrations mount
The fact is that you're going to get frustrated with your spouse or partner from time to time- after all you're only human and are not above mistakes. Do not let frustrations mount without clearing the air and addressing important or necessary issues. Unresolved issues have the tendency to degenerate and lead to bigger relationship problems. Don't put your head in the sand like the proverbial ostrich and assume your marriage or relationship will take care of itself. Do something now or it will crash.
2. Value each other like never before:
The fact is as your go through life together, either in relationship or as a married couple, it's easy to overlook each other. Never become preoccupied with competing commitments temporarily, taking the most important person in your life for granted is an entirely different ball game. Always make an effort to check in with one another each day, this must be shied away from. Share the little things with your partner like you used to (when you first met or fell in love).
3. Do not let the negatives surpass the positives
The fact is that conflicts and negative part of relationship have a way of getting out of hand if left unchecked or taken for grated. Always try to acknowledge and highlight any positive that occurs between each other and do not fail to show gratitude for the little positive things your partner does for you each day. Research shows that for your relationship to remain healthy, there must be a greater number of positive interactions between you and your partner than negative ones.
4. Try to break up dull routines:
The fact is that your relationship will over time fall into predictable patterns and routines. The routines may not be basically troublesome; in fact, many couples take comfort in their routines. However, when you start feeling bored and unenthusiastic with your routine, it should be a source of concern. If this is the case-the routines that once gave the both of you comfort is now squeezing the life out of your marriage or relationship. You and your partner need to periodically introduce something new into the relationship, stir things up by trying something unusual and exciting
5. Find balance in your life
The fact is that taking care of yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically will guarantee better spouse or partner. Whenever you stop taking care of yourself, there will always be negative fallout for the people around you, especially the people who love you. Self-negligence takes many forms for instance, working too much, repeatedly ignoring signs that you're not feeling well, consuming too much alcohol and cigarette, not getting enough sleep and so on. These will negatively affect your ability to be a present, responsive and reliable spouse or partner. Commit to taking care of yourself so you have the emotional reserves for yourself and the important people in your life, especially your spouse or partner.
If the idea of implementing all of these tips or steps into your relationship feels too disheartening, pick one or two and stay with them. Each one can have a positive effect on your relationship. And if your spouse or partner is open to it, share this list and make a mutual plan to incorporate these ideas into your daily lives.
Absolutely not-there are steps and tips you can adhere to, and it will prevent marital problems from taking hold and these steps can also help improve an already strong relationship.
5 (FIVE)steps to a stronger relationship:
1. Never let frustrations mount
The fact is that you're going to get frustrated with your spouse or partner from time to time- after all you're only human and are not above mistakes. Do not let frustrations mount without clearing the air and addressing important or necessary issues. Unresolved issues have the tendency to degenerate and lead to bigger relationship problems. Don't put your head in the sand like the proverbial ostrich and assume your marriage or relationship will take care of itself. Do something now or it will crash.
2. Value each other like never before:
The fact is as your go through life together, either in relationship or as a married couple, it's easy to overlook each other. Never become preoccupied with competing commitments temporarily, taking the most important person in your life for granted is an entirely different ball game. Always make an effort to check in with one another each day, this must be shied away from. Share the little things with your partner like you used to (when you first met or fell in love).
3. Do not let the negatives surpass the positives
The fact is that conflicts and negative part of relationship have a way of getting out of hand if left unchecked or taken for grated. Always try to acknowledge and highlight any positive that occurs between each other and do not fail to show gratitude for the little positive things your partner does for you each day. Research shows that for your relationship to remain healthy, there must be a greater number of positive interactions between you and your partner than negative ones.
4. Try to break up dull routines:
The fact is that your relationship will over time fall into predictable patterns and routines. The routines may not be basically troublesome; in fact, many couples take comfort in their routines. However, when you start feeling bored and unenthusiastic with your routine, it should be a source of concern. If this is the case-the routines that once gave the both of you comfort is now squeezing the life out of your marriage or relationship. You and your partner need to periodically introduce something new into the relationship, stir things up by trying something unusual and exciting
5. Find balance in your life
The fact is that taking care of yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically will guarantee better spouse or partner. Whenever you stop taking care of yourself, there will always be negative fallout for the people around you, especially the people who love you. Self-negligence takes many forms for instance, working too much, repeatedly ignoring signs that you're not feeling well, consuming too much alcohol and cigarette, not getting enough sleep and so on. These will negatively affect your ability to be a present, responsive and reliable spouse or partner. Commit to taking care of yourself so you have the emotional reserves for yourself and the important people in your life, especially your spouse or partner.
If the idea of implementing all of these tips or steps into your relationship feels too disheartening, pick one or two and stay with them. Each one can have a positive effect on your relationship. And if your spouse or partner is open to it, share this list and make a mutual plan to incorporate these ideas into your daily lives.
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