It is no news that first impressions matters, especially on the first date. You have done the most onerous part of it, which is asking her out with you, on a date. No right thinking man will ever want his efforts to be in futility. To avoid wasting you precious time and effort without result these steps has been put in place for you, towards a successful date.
1. Appear neat:
Everybody likes cleanliness not women in isolation, if the lady you want to date is unkempt, you would not have asked her out in the first place. So the possibility of you loosing the lady will also increase when your appearance is not neat, make sure that you present yourself clean on the first date. No matter you job or occupation, try as much as you can to appear neat and sweet. You perfume should lightly scented. Do not think that doubling the scent of your perfume will double the attraction, Wrong. A couple of sprays one on your neck and one on your chest then put on your shirt. This way your scent is mild and she will be close enough to smell it without being overpowered.
2. Get ready for some conversation:
Since you’re going out to meet someone new, you must have something in your mind to discuss. Know the clever ways to approach the standard questions to answer about your job, family, personal life, like and dislike etc. It will be helpful if you can inject a little mystery and humour in your conversations. Do not cut in when she is speaking; listen attentively by giving little nods and occasionally paraphrasing and asking questions-relevant questions.
3. Be time conscious:
It will do you much good than harm to be punctual. It's better to arrive early to give yourself time to have a short strolling around; this will help you ease up yourself. Rather than to be late and tensed up. On her side she will not be happy because you don’t value her time. You will also have to apologize instead of being happy to meet her once again.
4. Be polite to the waiter/ waitress.
Treat the waiter/waitress with utmost respect they deserve. Do not scold or yell at them no matter their mistakes, be a gentleman. Make sure you pick up the bill and tip accurately. Never use a discount voucher! If she's not worth paying full price for, then you shouldn't be on a date with her in the first place.
5. Maintain eye contact.
You must maintain eye contact with her; you can start by looking at the left eye, then the right eye and the nose in an angular form. If she is wearing a low cut top or a necklace that dangles over her chest, now, it's important that your eyes do not go wandering. Get caught staring at her cleavage and she will think you only care about getting her in the sack.
6. Give her compliments.
Be as sincere as possible. Most guys can only compliment a woman on her looks you could tell her how cute her laugh is, how passionate she is about her hobbies, life, job or her hair style. This also shows her that you pay attention and often gives you a conversation starter.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Sunday, October 25, 2009
>>Are You In Love Or Just Infatuated?
Most people find it difficult to distinguish between love and infatuation. Love is felling of intimacy and commitment to someone whom you care for. While infatuation is a strong passion for somebody that prevents one from thinking in a sensible way. Someone in love can say the reason for being in love, but an infatuated fellow cannot say why he or she is in love. Infatuation is not true love. It is a blind love that goes hand in hand with lust.
How then do we know when we are in love or just infatuated? When you become unnecessarily excited when a particular guy or lady is around, it is a sign that you are in love. It is not natural for someone to be happy whenever a particular person is around, it is a sign that he or she is in love. It is unnatural for someone to be excited whenever every guy or lady is around. Someone can only get excited when somebody he or she loves is around. We only get excited only when we are with some we love. For example, a woman will get excited only when a man she loves is around. If he or she is always on your mind, you get excited for being around him or her, it shows that you are in love with him or her.
People don’t usually think of things that are not important to them. When something is on you mind constantly, then that thing is likely to be important to you. If you become conscious of your looks just because you think he or she may admire you, it shows that you really feel something for him or her. Most people don’t dress or make up for the fun of dressing. They dress and make up because they wish to be seen and admired by someone special to them. If you feel sad, unhappy or jealousy when you see him or her in the company of other opposite sex. It is a sign of strong feeling for him or her. Similarly, when you see a lady or guy you don’t have feeling for, in the company of other opposite sex, you will not be moved, but the moment you see the one you admire in the mist of other opposite sex, a feeling of jealousy will overtake your mind.
Finally if you feel free to discuss your private life with him, it shows the confidence and absolute trust you have in him. You will not go ahead to discuss your personal life with someone you don’t have any feeling or whatsoever for. It is also important to note that someone who is infatuated also reacts like someone in love. You may be excited when the guy or lady you admire is around; think about him or her every now and then, be conscious of your looks, be jealous of him or her when in the company of the opposite sex and feel free to discuss your private life, but may not care so much for him or her that you would want to do anything that would make him or her happy. For instance, if a woman strives to make a man happy and always encourage and support him when he’s down, it shows that she feels something unique for him. This unique feeling is love not infatuation.
How then do we know when we are in love or just infatuated? When you become unnecessarily excited when a particular guy or lady is around, it is a sign that you are in love. It is not natural for someone to be happy whenever a particular person is around, it is a sign that he or she is in love. It is unnatural for someone to be excited whenever every guy or lady is around. Someone can only get excited when somebody he or she loves is around. We only get excited only when we are with some we love. For example, a woman will get excited only when a man she loves is around. If he or she is always on your mind, you get excited for being around him or her, it shows that you are in love with him or her.
People don’t usually think of things that are not important to them. When something is on you mind constantly, then that thing is likely to be important to you. If you become conscious of your looks just because you think he or she may admire you, it shows that you really feel something for him or her. Most people don’t dress or make up for the fun of dressing. They dress and make up because they wish to be seen and admired by someone special to them. If you feel sad, unhappy or jealousy when you see him or her in the company of other opposite sex. It is a sign of strong feeling for him or her. Similarly, when you see a lady or guy you don’t have feeling for, in the company of other opposite sex, you will not be moved, but the moment you see the one you admire in the mist of other opposite sex, a feeling of jealousy will overtake your mind.
Finally if you feel free to discuss your private life with him, it shows the confidence and absolute trust you have in him. You will not go ahead to discuss your personal life with someone you don’t have any feeling or whatsoever for. It is also important to note that someone who is infatuated also reacts like someone in love. You may be excited when the guy or lady you admire is around; think about him or her every now and then, be conscious of your looks, be jealous of him or her when in the company of the opposite sex and feel free to discuss your private life, but may not care so much for him or her that you would want to do anything that would make him or her happy. For instance, if a woman strives to make a man happy and always encourage and support him when he’s down, it shows that she feels something unique for him. This unique feeling is love not infatuation.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
>>Breakup With Ease.
It doesn’t matter how long you have been together (whether for a very long or short time), breakups hurt and it also effects our emotions. This is whether you’re aware or not of its effects, breakups do affect us. It can’t be easy to get over breakup. Research has proved It, that it takes half of the time you’ve being together or even more than, to get over him or her. These tips will help you overcome breakup with a smile.
1- Cease any form of communication:
The most important ingredient of any relationship is communication. The moment communication is affected in any relationship; the relationship is heading to crash. You may think that you can handle it but you’re just joking, you can’t. Trying to get over it will only hurt you the more. Get over him or her for the mean time, you may someday in the future become friends again. Until after this, lick your wounds and recover any way you would like; whether spending absurd money buying clothes you don’t need, partying hard or staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream. Though these ways may sound weird to you, but it works.
2- Try to get over him or her:
Those good times shared together, those sweet words, those interests you share, those attractions may be hard to forget, but the earlier you get over all these the better for you. For instance, that little spot in the park that you two went to, on your first date used to be “yours”. Well, they are not any more. Never try connecting to any platonic objects, when there isn’t one. Let yourself to know that, that spot in the park is a beautiful place to relax, not because of anybody connected to it. You don’t need to loose more than you have suffering from breakup, so don’t get silly on yourself.
3- Reconnect with your friends:
No matter how you may view it, no one will refer to you as that girl or that guy that gives up her or his friends for his girl friend or her boy friend. Everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with her boy friend or his girl friend. Go outing with your friends and never cease from having fun and then, you will see how much fun it is being single.
Take some time for yourself:
In the mist of all these not communicating with him or her, partying more or eating more of ice cream and hanging out with your friends-you need time to seat back and talk to yourself concerning your feelings. Try to understand why things went wrong and why you are better of the way you are living presently. In no time believe me, you will be a better person than you use to be and what is his or her name will be a thing of the past.
1- Cease any form of communication:
The most important ingredient of any relationship is communication. The moment communication is affected in any relationship; the relationship is heading to crash. You may think that you can handle it but you’re just joking, you can’t. Trying to get over it will only hurt you the more. Get over him or her for the mean time, you may someday in the future become friends again. Until after this, lick your wounds and recover any way you would like; whether spending absurd money buying clothes you don’t need, partying hard or staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream. Though these ways may sound weird to you, but it works.
2- Try to get over him or her:
Those good times shared together, those sweet words, those interests you share, those attractions may be hard to forget, but the earlier you get over all these the better for you. For instance, that little spot in the park that you two went to, on your first date used to be “yours”. Well, they are not any more. Never try connecting to any platonic objects, when there isn’t one. Let yourself to know that, that spot in the park is a beautiful place to relax, not because of anybody connected to it. You don’t need to loose more than you have suffering from breakup, so don’t get silly on yourself.
3- Reconnect with your friends:
No matter how you may view it, no one will refer to you as that girl or that guy that gives up her or his friends for his girl friend or her boy friend. Everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with her boy friend or his girl friend. Go outing with your friends and never cease from having fun and then, you will see how much fun it is being single.
Take some time for yourself:
In the mist of all these not communicating with him or her, partying more or eating more of ice cream and hanging out with your friends-you need time to seat back and talk to yourself concerning your feelings. Try to understand why things went wrong and why you are better of the way you are living presently. In no time believe me, you will be a better person than you use to be and what is his or her name will be a thing of the past.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
>>Signs Of Infidelity.
Are you nursing some suspicious feeling of infidelity in your relationship? Maybe you've already taken note of some warning signs of infidelity. You're in love with your partner and want to trust him or her, but certain things don't really meet your expectations. Let me tell you, first of all you should not be blamed. Your lover's cheating is absolutely not your fault! Nothing deserves cheating in a relationship, that's all. If your partner is cheating on you, you deserve so much better than that! Read on to the 3 (three) signs of infidelity below if you're ready to catch your cheater.
1. Beware of White Liars:
Those small lies about seemingly unimportant things is one of the first warning signs of infidelity. These can simply be about when he paid the power bill, or whether she "forgot" she had a date with you. Cheaters always feel like they have to cover their tracks, so they will lie about things they would not usually lie about, in order to be free from possible suspicion.
2. Looking Good, Feeling Not:
Your lover has begun to take better care of their looks and hygiene, however your sex life has noticeably deteriorated. He or she is always happy whereas your relationship is not healthy. She's spending more time wearing make up and wearing sexier clothes, or he's using cologne, shaving and wearing nice shirts. (By the way, do you know where those new clothes came from?) And yet they're not in the mood for intimacy as often as they used to be. Doesn't make sense, does it? These warning signs of infidelity are a possible indicator of seeing someone on the side.
3. Highly paranoiac these days:
As a cheater he or she feels like they have to cover all their bases to ensure they don't seem suspicious in any regard. So if you say something that gives a hint of doubt, they may answer defensively. For instance, you could say jokingly, "I know where you really where last night", and your lover may react like, "What are you talking about? What do you mean?" They could even accuse you of cheating! These warning signs of infidelity may be slight, but they are still important.
So you've looked at these warning signs of infidelity and feel even more sure. Now what do you do? I can say one thing for certain: don't confront your lover right away. Gather your emotions and evidence first. If you accuse them and come off as unstable and emotional, the cheater will be in control.
They will take the opportunity to appear calm, collected, and rational, while you are a mess. Don't give them this opportunity! Pretend you don't suspect a thing like that and they will get over confidence or take you for granted, making it more likely to make a mistake and give you more warning signs of infidelity. Gather up these warning signs of infidelity. Express yourself to a close friend or family member (who you're sure you're partner isn't involved with) so you don't feel like an emotional time bomb ready to explode.
1. Beware of White Liars:
Those small lies about seemingly unimportant things is one of the first warning signs of infidelity. These can simply be about when he paid the power bill, or whether she "forgot" she had a date with you. Cheaters always feel like they have to cover their tracks, so they will lie about things they would not usually lie about, in order to be free from possible suspicion.
2. Looking Good, Feeling Not:
Your lover has begun to take better care of their looks and hygiene, however your sex life has noticeably deteriorated. He or she is always happy whereas your relationship is not healthy. She's spending more time wearing make up and wearing sexier clothes, or he's using cologne, shaving and wearing nice shirts. (By the way, do you know where those new clothes came from?) And yet they're not in the mood for intimacy as often as they used to be. Doesn't make sense, does it? These warning signs of infidelity are a possible indicator of seeing someone on the side.
3. Highly paranoiac these days:
As a cheater he or she feels like they have to cover all their bases to ensure they don't seem suspicious in any regard. So if you say something that gives a hint of doubt, they may answer defensively. For instance, you could say jokingly, "I know where you really where last night", and your lover may react like, "What are you talking about? What do you mean?" They could even accuse you of cheating! These warning signs of infidelity may be slight, but they are still important.
So you've looked at these warning signs of infidelity and feel even more sure. Now what do you do? I can say one thing for certain: don't confront your lover right away. Gather your emotions and evidence first. If you accuse them and come off as unstable and emotional, the cheater will be in control.
They will take the opportunity to appear calm, collected, and rational, while you are a mess. Don't give them this opportunity! Pretend you don't suspect a thing like that and they will get over confidence or take you for granted, making it more likely to make a mistake and give you more warning signs of infidelity. Gather up these warning signs of infidelity. Express yourself to a close friend or family member (who you're sure you're partner isn't involved with) so you don't feel like an emotional time bomb ready to explode.
>>How To Keep Your Woman Smiling.
Is your woman happy because of the way you treat her? If "no" then, take some lessons for your relationship. Be yourself, Many men don’t feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on a show. But a confident man is the sexiest man around. Have you ever noticed that some of the guys classified as the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest or hot women around? There is some level of confidence that they display and women value confidence than physical looks.
Always do the little things for her. For instance, offering to take her car to the car wash from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures”, when it is the little things add up to make a long relationships. Do not deny your woman that little kindness and courtesies, they are so important. The little things are the big things, In your relationship.
You must appreciate her, it's your responsibility. Never take her for granted. Let her know that you value her more than anything. You should try to make her laugh. Women value men with sense of humor than those good looking guys. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.
Never stare at other women when you are with her or she will think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re gazing at. Women don’t understand the whole concept of “the day I stop looking is the day I die.” This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner, a man with whom they can raise children. They can’t help it. That’s how evolution designed them. So minimize that your desirous look, especially whenever she’s around.
Never allow your interest to differ from that of your woman. It will be great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it will still be of great help if you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for local movies, as the case may be. This will show her how much you care about her and she will love you exceptionally for that.
Never stop just because she is all yours – at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave when it is necessary. Keep up to date in fashion trends for men. In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.
She can introduce you to her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her choice of man. Try hard.
Never try to upset her unnecessarily and you should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than men. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.
Finally, trying new things always to give your relationship new lease of life, never routinize your relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship is getting boring, shake things up. Try something new. It will be of great help to the health of your relationship.
Always do the little things for her. For instance, offering to take her car to the car wash from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of “grand gestures”, when it is the little things add up to make a long relationships. Do not deny your woman that little kindness and courtesies, they are so important. The little things are the big things, In your relationship.
You must appreciate her, it's your responsibility. Never take her for granted. Let her know that you value her more than anything. You should try to make her laugh. Women value men with sense of humor than those good looking guys. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.
Never stare at other women when you are with her or she will think that you are comparing her to the woman you’re gazing at. Women don’t understand the whole concept of “the day I stop looking is the day I die.” This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner, a man with whom they can raise children. They can’t help it. That’s how evolution designed them. So minimize that your desirous look, especially whenever she’s around.
Never allow your interest to differ from that of your woman. It will be great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it will still be of great help if you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for local movies, as the case may be. This will show her how much you care about her and she will love you exceptionally for that.
Never stop just because she is all yours – at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave when it is necessary. Keep up to date in fashion trends for men. In short, don’t get sloppy just because you’ve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.
She can introduce you to her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her choice of man. Try hard.
Never try to upset her unnecessarily and you should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than men. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you won’t get on her bad side.
Finally, trying new things always to give your relationship new lease of life, never routinize your relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship is getting boring, shake things up. Try something new. It will be of great help to the health of your relationship.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
>>Sex In A Relationship.
If you're in a relationship with a guy and you delay having sex, will it help strengthen your relationship? Will it actually hurt your chance of the relationship getting serious, or will it help it? How long, exactly, should you make him wait? Sex is an important part of any relationship, as it is widely accepted. However, sex also can brings a lot of other complications in a relationship as well. If you want to have a serious relationship with a man but are unsure as to when you should sleep with him, i urge you to read further to find out if delaying having sex with a man will help strengthen your relationship.
It is not widely accepted at a cultural and also religious level to have sexual relationship with a man whom you are not married to. More and more women are embracing their sexuality and even becoming empowered by it. Even having more than one sexual partner is not as taboo as it used to be.
However, because more women are embracing thier sexuality does not necessarily mean that you should do it, especially if it is a serious relationship that you are searching for. If you are simply looking for physical satisfaction and are seeking casual partners, then sleeping with a man fairly soon in a relationship is not too bad. If you are looking for something more permanent, however, then it makes sense to practice some constraint and to delay having sex with him until the time is right.
So why should you wait until the time is right?
Well, for one thing, at the beginning of the relationship it's sometimes difficult to know what a man's motives are. Some men are simply out looking for a good time, while others are looking for a more serious commitment but don't know how to communicate that. Until you know what his intentions are, you should probably hold out when it comes to sex.
Delaying sex with a new man in your life will also give you the chance to get to know the man better on an emotional level, which is a really great foundation for a serious relationship. If you jump right into the sheets with him, it's difficult to build a lasting relationship on that foundation.
Sex can be fun and everyone has physical needs. However, you should remember that it is worth waiting for and that you don't have to rush into anything that you are not ready for. If you delay having sex with a man, it can give both of you a chance to get to know one another more which can eventually lead to a promising and fulfilling relationship ahead.
It is not widely accepted at a cultural and also religious level to have sexual relationship with a man whom you are not married to. More and more women are embracing their sexuality and even becoming empowered by it. Even having more than one sexual partner is not as taboo as it used to be.
However, because more women are embracing thier sexuality does not necessarily mean that you should do it, especially if it is a serious relationship that you are searching for. If you are simply looking for physical satisfaction and are seeking casual partners, then sleeping with a man fairly soon in a relationship is not too bad. If you are looking for something more permanent, however, then it makes sense to practice some constraint and to delay having sex with him until the time is right.
So why should you wait until the time is right?
Well, for one thing, at the beginning of the relationship it's sometimes difficult to know what a man's motives are. Some men are simply out looking for a good time, while others are looking for a more serious commitment but don't know how to communicate that. Until you know what his intentions are, you should probably hold out when it comes to sex.
Delaying sex with a new man in your life will also give you the chance to get to know the man better on an emotional level, which is a really great foundation for a serious relationship. If you jump right into the sheets with him, it's difficult to build a lasting relationship on that foundation.
Sex can be fun and everyone has physical needs. However, you should remember that it is worth waiting for and that you don't have to rush into anything that you are not ready for. If you delay having sex with a man, it can give both of you a chance to get to know one another more which can eventually lead to a promising and fulfilling relationship ahead.
>>Know What He Wants- Sex Or A Partner?
Do you feel like you are really falling hard for a new guy in your life? You know that he is attracted to you, but does he really want a relationship or are you just someone that he wants to have fun with? If you don't feel like asking him is the right way to find out then here is what you can do instead.
If you have decided not to just ask the guy outright, then you probably know men better than you think you do. You have made the right decision, because if there is one subject that men hate to talk about it is romance. This is especially true of questions about whether or not and how much he likes a girl.
Though all hope is not lost since you can still find the answer without even having to ask http://www.blogger.com/him about it and potentially scare him away. Besides, you should know that action they say, speaks louder than word. Like you know talk is cheap these days. Anyone can say anything, but it is the way that a guy acts that tells you if he wants a relationship with you or not.
If a guy makes it a point to try to spend real quality time with you, then he probably wants a relationship. When a guy likes a girl he will do whatever he can to impress her and make her want to see him again. However, if he is always calling you last minute to hang out at his place and watch television, then he is not trying hard and not taking you seriously.
Does he want a relationship enough to agree with you when you tell him that you are not going to sleep with him early on? Guys who just want to be with a woman to get her in bed will probably take off once they find out that the girl is not going to sleep with him right off. This is because he can not get what he wants. So if you tell him that it could be months before you are ready and he seems fine with that, that is the best indication that he does want a relationship with you.
If you have decided not to just ask the guy outright, then you probably know men better than you think you do. You have made the right decision, because if there is one subject that men hate to talk about it is romance. This is especially true of questions about whether or not and how much he likes a girl.
Though all hope is not lost since you can still find the answer without even having to ask http://www.blogger.com/him about it and potentially scare him away. Besides, you should know that action they say, speaks louder than word. Like you know talk is cheap these days. Anyone can say anything, but it is the way that a guy acts that tells you if he wants a relationship with you or not.
If a guy makes it a point to try to spend real quality time with you, then he probably wants a relationship. When a guy likes a girl he will do whatever he can to impress her and make her want to see him again. However, if he is always calling you last minute to hang out at his place and watch television, then he is not trying hard and not taking you seriously.
Does he want a relationship enough to agree with you when you tell him that you are not going to sleep with him early on? Guys who just want to be with a woman to get her in bed will probably take off once they find out that the girl is not going to sleep with him right off. This is because he can not get what he wants. So if you tell him that it could be months before you are ready and he seems fine with that, that is the best indication that he does want a relationship with you.
>>How Happy Are You A Couple?
Everybody both married or those in a long-term committed relationship comes to know that at a time there is a danger of falling into a dull routine. The increasing number of marriage advice and relationship help books is a clear indication that couples are eagerly searching for ways to solve relationship problems and keep their relationship running on a soother platform. But the question is "can marriage problems and painful relationship issues be always inevitable"?
Absolutely not-there are steps and tips you can adhere to, and it will prevent marital problems from taking hold and these steps can also help improve an already strong relationship.
5 (FIVE)steps to a stronger relationship:
1. Never let frustrations mount
The fact is that you're going to get frustrated with your spouse or partner from time to time- after all you're only human and are not above mistakes. Do not let frustrations mount without clearing the air and addressing important or necessary issues. Unresolved issues have the tendency to degenerate and lead to bigger relationship problems. Don't put your head in the sand like the proverbial ostrich and assume your marriage or relationship will take care of itself. Do something now or it will crash.
2. Value each other like never before:
The fact is as your go through life together, either in relationship or as a married couple, it's easy to overlook each other. Never become preoccupied with competing commitments temporarily, taking the most important person in your life for granted is an entirely different ball game. Always make an effort to check in with one another each day, this must be shied away from. Share the little things with your partner like you used to (when you first met or fell in love).
3. Do not let the negatives surpass the positives
The fact is that conflicts and negative part of relationship have a way of getting out of hand if left unchecked or taken for grated. Always try to acknowledge and highlight any positive that occurs between each other and do not fail to show gratitude for the little positive things your partner does for you each day. Research shows that for your relationship to remain healthy, there must be a greater number of positive interactions between you and your partner than negative ones.
4. Try to break up dull routines:
The fact is that your relationship will over time fall into predictable patterns and routines. The routines may not be basically troublesome; in fact, many couples take comfort in their routines. However, when you start feeling bored and unenthusiastic with your routine, it should be a source of concern. If this is the case-the routines that once gave the both of you comfort is now squeezing the life out of your marriage or relationship. You and your partner need to periodically introduce something new into the relationship, stir things up by trying something unusual and exciting
5. Find balance in your life
The fact is that taking care of yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically will guarantee better spouse or partner. Whenever you stop taking care of yourself, there will always be negative fallout for the people around you, especially the people who love you. Self-negligence takes many forms for instance, working too much, repeatedly ignoring signs that you're not feeling well, consuming too much alcohol and cigarette, not getting enough sleep and so on. These will negatively affect your ability to be a present, responsive and reliable spouse or partner. Commit to taking care of yourself so you have the emotional reserves for yourself and the important people in your life, especially your spouse or partner.
If the idea of implementing all of these tips or steps into your relationship feels too disheartening, pick one or two and stay with them. Each one can have a positive effect on your relationship. And if your spouse or partner is open to it, share this list and make a mutual plan to incorporate these ideas into your daily lives.
Absolutely not-there are steps and tips you can adhere to, and it will prevent marital problems from taking hold and these steps can also help improve an already strong relationship.
5 (FIVE)steps to a stronger relationship:
1. Never let frustrations mount
The fact is that you're going to get frustrated with your spouse or partner from time to time- after all you're only human and are not above mistakes. Do not let frustrations mount without clearing the air and addressing important or necessary issues. Unresolved issues have the tendency to degenerate and lead to bigger relationship problems. Don't put your head in the sand like the proverbial ostrich and assume your marriage or relationship will take care of itself. Do something now or it will crash.
2. Value each other like never before:
The fact is as your go through life together, either in relationship or as a married couple, it's easy to overlook each other. Never become preoccupied with competing commitments temporarily, taking the most important person in your life for granted is an entirely different ball game. Always make an effort to check in with one another each day, this must be shied away from. Share the little things with your partner like you used to (when you first met or fell in love).
3. Do not let the negatives surpass the positives
The fact is that conflicts and negative part of relationship have a way of getting out of hand if left unchecked or taken for grated. Always try to acknowledge and highlight any positive that occurs between each other and do not fail to show gratitude for the little positive things your partner does for you each day. Research shows that for your relationship to remain healthy, there must be a greater number of positive interactions between you and your partner than negative ones.
4. Try to break up dull routines:
The fact is that your relationship will over time fall into predictable patterns and routines. The routines may not be basically troublesome; in fact, many couples take comfort in their routines. However, when you start feeling bored and unenthusiastic with your routine, it should be a source of concern. If this is the case-the routines that once gave the both of you comfort is now squeezing the life out of your marriage or relationship. You and your partner need to periodically introduce something new into the relationship, stir things up by trying something unusual and exciting
5. Find balance in your life
The fact is that taking care of yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically will guarantee better spouse or partner. Whenever you stop taking care of yourself, there will always be negative fallout for the people around you, especially the people who love you. Self-negligence takes many forms for instance, working too much, repeatedly ignoring signs that you're not feeling well, consuming too much alcohol and cigarette, not getting enough sleep and so on. These will negatively affect your ability to be a present, responsive and reliable spouse or partner. Commit to taking care of yourself so you have the emotional reserves for yourself and the important people in your life, especially your spouse or partner.
If the idea of implementing all of these tips or steps into your relationship feels too disheartening, pick one or two and stay with them. Each one can have a positive effect on your relationship. And if your spouse or partner is open to it, share this list and make a mutual plan to incorporate these ideas into your daily lives.
Monday, September 28, 2009
>>Turn Rejection Into Inspiration.
A big obstacle to self-expression is the fear of being rejected or opposed. Great People are taken to their graves today with music, song, art, for the fear 0f being rejected. Whereas, Bo Bennett said that "A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success".
Lost opportunities, an improvement/betterment to life - all diminished or disappeared because of this unreasonable fear. This fear of rejection, at best, can be annoying. At worst, it can have devastating results on the individual in question. The fear goes a long way in creating another reality for him/her and the results, depending on how it was handled by the individual.
The ability to even learn how to handle this fear of rejection successfully, you must at least first, understand it and its nature. Fear of rejection is like a phobia, an excessive, irrational fear of something that is actually meaningless or not in existence. This fear is an inflated dread of a menace that doesn't exist. Nothing more, nothing less.
The worst tangible effect of rejection is to your ego or self esteem, it gets a bit dented. A dented ego hasn't yet created any life-threatening scenario. But, someone in a paroxysm of fear of rejection will not be able to see that. Like any other fear, the fear of rejection serves as the stimulus, to which the reaction is exaggerated and would trigger the "fight or flight response."
A person with a fear has his/her own reality. A mild threat would be discerned as a major catastrophe that would have overwhelming or deadly response is of such unbalanced proportions.
Purging that fear of rejection calls for a process in relation to desensitization. All possible effects of rejection must be rightly examined and analyzed. You could ask yourself, "what will happen to me if someone expresses, verbally or in action, disapproval, resentment, criticism or rejection?"
When we have our bearings on straight, we will realize that the worst consequence to a rejection is merely a bruised ego. And even that can only happen when we allow such rejection, action, reaction, disapproval, resentment or criticism to affect our ego or self esteem. Words alone are powerless, cannot hurt us, unless and until we allow them to.
The deeper we look into the tangible effects of rejection, the more we get to comprehend its minimal significance, or non-significance. Someone disagrees with us, or doesn't like us, there's nothing extra ordinary or special to it. Everyone has a right to his opinion, either to agree or disagree. so, what's the case with disagreement?
No one goes through life without coming across a relative number of people who will disagree, show needless resentment and express some form of rejection. That's a package deal in life. Winners, leaders, champions, they all know and understand that that's a very paltry exchange for living a life they enjoy.
As of time immemorial, rejection meant exclusion from the clan and its support and resources. The rejected persons have to carter for themselves.Rejection then is a different thing from what we are discussing now. Rejection could mean saying NO or disagreement to a particular opinion. A nobody is not worth any attention, much more criticism or rejection. A rising star, on the other hand, gets the attention, and with it, some opposition and/or rejection.
Of course, we don't like to be criticized or rejected. But, dissenting opinions or actions have to be taken in the right context. An opinion distinct from yours doesn't affect you or your value. It takes a great man/woman to be compassionate, forgiving and tolerant. Not everyone gets to that level of humanity. But you can
do it just believe. Don't let anyone else rain on your parade, it's not worth your time and effort. Go on give it a try, if it works , fine and if it doesn't work fantastic!
Lost opportunities, an improvement/betterment to life - all diminished or disappeared because of this unreasonable fear. This fear of rejection, at best, can be annoying. At worst, it can have devastating results on the individual in question. The fear goes a long way in creating another reality for him/her and the results, depending on how it was handled by the individual.
The ability to even learn how to handle this fear of rejection successfully, you must at least first, understand it and its nature. Fear of rejection is like a phobia, an excessive, irrational fear of something that is actually meaningless or not in existence. This fear is an inflated dread of a menace that doesn't exist. Nothing more, nothing less.
The worst tangible effect of rejection is to your ego or self esteem, it gets a bit dented. A dented ego hasn't yet created any life-threatening scenario. But, someone in a paroxysm of fear of rejection will not be able to see that. Like any other fear, the fear of rejection serves as the stimulus, to which the reaction is exaggerated and would trigger the "fight or flight response."
A person with a fear has his/her own reality. A mild threat would be discerned as a major catastrophe that would have overwhelming or deadly response is of such unbalanced proportions.
Purging that fear of rejection calls for a process in relation to desensitization. All possible effects of rejection must be rightly examined and analyzed. You could ask yourself, "what will happen to me if someone expresses, verbally or in action, disapproval, resentment, criticism or rejection?"
When we have our bearings on straight, we will realize that the worst consequence to a rejection is merely a bruised ego. And even that can only happen when we allow such rejection, action, reaction, disapproval, resentment or criticism to affect our ego or self esteem. Words alone are powerless, cannot hurt us, unless and until we allow them to.
The deeper we look into the tangible effects of rejection, the more we get to comprehend its minimal significance, or non-significance. Someone disagrees with us, or doesn't like us, there's nothing extra ordinary or special to it. Everyone has a right to his opinion, either to agree or disagree. so, what's the case with disagreement?
No one goes through life without coming across a relative number of people who will disagree, show needless resentment and express some form of rejection. That's a package deal in life. Winners, leaders, champions, they all know and understand that that's a very paltry exchange for living a life they enjoy.
As of time immemorial, rejection meant exclusion from the clan and its support and resources. The rejected persons have to carter for themselves.Rejection then is a different thing from what we are discussing now. Rejection could mean saying NO or disagreement to a particular opinion. A nobody is not worth any attention, much more criticism or rejection. A rising star, on the other hand, gets the attention, and with it, some opposition and/or rejection.
Of course, we don't like to be criticized or rejected. But, dissenting opinions or actions have to be taken in the right context. An opinion distinct from yours doesn't affect you or your value. It takes a great man/woman to be compassionate, forgiving and tolerant. Not everyone gets to that level of humanity. But you can
do it just believe. Don't let anyone else rain on your parade, it's not worth your time and effort. Go on give it a try, if it works , fine and if it doesn't work fantastic!
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
>>Building Trust In Your Relationship.
Relationship without trust is going to crash now or later.There's no circumstance in any given relationship that can make one happy without feeling they could trust their partner.There are ways to ensure that there is this trust in a relationship. Don't always waste your trying to spice things up, instead of building trust in your partner as this will fail it will only take time. The responsibility of moving the relationship to a higher level is on both of you.
Predictability may sound boring, but not if it is predictability in caring, in being there when needed, in taking your responsibility, always being a shoulder to cry on when necessary and so on. Surprises are great when it's something like a surprise day out, a visit to a new restaurant, a thoughtful gift. Your partner needs to feel that whatever happens, you will be there for them.
Don't just pay lip service to being honest, be honest indeed. If there is something bothering you, let it out, don't brood on it and turn a molehill into a mountain. Discuss it with your partner, don't leave them feeling that you are shutting them out, work hard to build trust in your relationship. Don't give rooms for suspense, clear any suspense by asking matured and reasonable questions.
Always give your partner credit and commendations when necessary. If you are not happy with whatever they do, try to approach this sensitively, don't just jump in with both feet and try to be diplomatic instead of just downright critical. Your approach to any action that you deem unacceptable should be with utmost care to avoid misconception.
Don't keep things to yourself. Secrets, especially if they concern your marriage or relationship have a habit of coming into the open and it's much better if you are the one to bring them out. If your partner finds something out that you have been keeping secret it will not build trust in your relationship. It's quite hard work keeping secrets, than making someone happy, put that sort of energy into keeping your partner happy.
It's not a crime to let your partner know what you need from them. Often you have to spell things out, your partner will not necessarily know what you are thinking, no one is a perfect mind reader, even if you think you know each other inside out, you may may as well be wrong. It's all about give and take.
There is no harm in saying no now and whenever it is necessary. Perhaps your partner requests something of you that you cannot agree with. Don't just roll over and give in, this will actually make your partner have respect for you as a person, nobody wants a doormat for a partner.
Always keep looking ahead, relationships do much better if they are not static. Don't get in a rut when you have everything to enjoy, it depends on the choice you made, try to make sure you have things to look forward to. Plan for your future together. Don't let boredom creep in because this is where problems might start. Boredom is a killer to relationships. Both of you are alive express your lives.
When working on ways to build trust in a relationship, sometimes you may encounter problems. People are not angels, everyone has a slightly darker side, and may not always do things that are expected of them. Be prepared to accept some features of your partner that you wish were different. Nobody is perfect so never enter a relationship thinking or hoping that your partner is perfect, you are in for a rocky ride if you think so. Take people for what they are, treasure their good points and try to come to terms with things that are not exactly as you would wish. Don't forget, they are having to do the same with regard to yourself.
"Get your relationship back on track and enjoy your company"
Predictability may sound boring, but not if it is predictability in caring, in being there when needed, in taking your responsibility, always being a shoulder to cry on when necessary and so on. Surprises are great when it's something like a surprise day out, a visit to a new restaurant, a thoughtful gift. Your partner needs to feel that whatever happens, you will be there for them.
Don't just pay lip service to being honest, be honest indeed. If there is something bothering you, let it out, don't brood on it and turn a molehill into a mountain. Discuss it with your partner, don't leave them feeling that you are shutting them out, work hard to build trust in your relationship. Don't give rooms for suspense, clear any suspense by asking matured and reasonable questions.
Always give your partner credit and commendations when necessary. If you are not happy with whatever they do, try to approach this sensitively, don't just jump in with both feet and try to be diplomatic instead of just downright critical. Your approach to any action that you deem unacceptable should be with utmost care to avoid misconception.
Don't keep things to yourself. Secrets, especially if they concern your marriage or relationship have a habit of coming into the open and it's much better if you are the one to bring them out. If your partner finds something out that you have been keeping secret it will not build trust in your relationship. It's quite hard work keeping secrets, than making someone happy, put that sort of energy into keeping your partner happy.
It's not a crime to let your partner know what you need from them. Often you have to spell things out, your partner will not necessarily know what you are thinking, no one is a perfect mind reader, even if you think you know each other inside out, you may may as well be wrong. It's all about give and take.
There is no harm in saying no now and whenever it is necessary. Perhaps your partner requests something of you that you cannot agree with. Don't just roll over and give in, this will actually make your partner have respect for you as a person, nobody wants a doormat for a partner.
Always keep looking ahead, relationships do much better if they are not static. Don't get in a rut when you have everything to enjoy, it depends on the choice you made, try to make sure you have things to look forward to. Plan for your future together. Don't let boredom creep in because this is where problems might start. Boredom is a killer to relationships. Both of you are alive express your lives.
When working on ways to build trust in a relationship, sometimes you may encounter problems. People are not angels, everyone has a slightly darker side, and may not always do things that are expected of them. Be prepared to accept some features of your partner that you wish were different. Nobody is perfect so never enter a relationship thinking or hoping that your partner is perfect, you are in for a rocky ride if you think so. Take people for what they are, treasure their good points and try to come to terms with things that are not exactly as you would wish. Don't forget, they are having to do the same with regard to yourself.
"Get your relationship back on track and enjoy your company"
Monday, September 7, 2009
>>Attract A Lady Of Your Choice.
Attracting the attention of that beautiful, pretty or lovely lady for marriage is the wish of every Young man. But it is only few can do just this without much problem. Everybody admires and wishes good things, but only few people get their wishes. Have you ever taking time to ask yourself why don’t I get what I wish? Then believe me you don’t get what you want because you don’t do what you are expected to do, simple. Then follow these tips and believe in yourself, because you can’t change yourself and that beautiful girl you’ve being dreaming of is yours.
1- Look Neat, Cute And Smart: Always dress neat and look cute in your outfit. Your clothing, hair, teeth, in fact every part of your body should get attention it requires frequently. You can’t attract the attention of your fellow man when you look tattered, dressed in unusual way or look unkempt. Neatness is next to Godliness, neatness also guarantees respect.
2- Treat People Around You With Utmost Respect: Be careful when dealing with people you come across on daily basis, since you don’t know who may be observing you. This is because a lady’s first impression about you may be bad and you can find it very difficult to convince such a lady to believe in you. Ladies love someone that is soft, caring and sympathetic. Ladies are weaker than men, so they need somebody that is soft, not somebody that will flay up upon little provocation. No lady will like to marry a man that will be giving her the beating of her life.
3- Be Caring, Loving And Humorous: Love the lady in question, never cease telling her how much you love her. Of course you have to also show her you love her and one of the best ways to love is by giving. You should also be caring, let her know that her happiness is your concern. Take her out for shopping, to the parks, cinema, live shows and other numerous places to have fun together. Show much interest in affairs that she is involved, in a way to make her feel better and safe whenever she is with you. Lastly, be a funny, crack joke that is matured not just dry jokes.
4- Share Your Future With Her: Let her know what your plans for tomorrow are like; get her involved, if you can. This will help in given her that sense that she truly belongs to you. You should also know that ladies are synonymous with doubt, by making her part of the plans; she will not doubt you much.
5- Be Good To Her Friends In The Way You Can: Carry some of her friends that believe in you along. Crack jokes and visit them together, but never let them know how far you have gone with the lady; unless if both of you or you are sure that no third party can harm your relationship. Her friends should not know about your future, handle it with utmost secrecy.
6- Don’t Keep Double Relationship At This Time: You don’t need any game, flirting or any of the like things, as you can call it. All you need is concentration on what you need from the lady and never allow your mouth to keep shut, keep telling her what you want. No amount of times you will tell her what you need from her that is too much. You should not even let her know about your past affairs, as that can do you more harm than good.
7- Make Her Your Closest Friend At This Time: This will help you in numerous ways; it will help you know how she responds to your advances. It will again help you keep watch on her, to know if she loves someone else. It will also let her know that you are serious and that you also care about her. It will also help both of you to know each other very well.
8- Never Even Talk About Sex, Until You’ve Known Her Opinion: Your discussions about sex and or romance should be with high degree of care, until you have known her view about it. It will do you more harm than good if she gets bored talking of sex and you have great passion about it. Don’t also persuade her into sex with you, get her for yourself first and every other thing shall be added unto you.
1- Look Neat, Cute And Smart: Always dress neat and look cute in your outfit. Your clothing, hair, teeth, in fact every part of your body should get attention it requires frequently. You can’t attract the attention of your fellow man when you look tattered, dressed in unusual way or look unkempt. Neatness is next to Godliness, neatness also guarantees respect.
2- Treat People Around You With Utmost Respect: Be careful when dealing with people you come across on daily basis, since you don’t know who may be observing you. This is because a lady’s first impression about you may be bad and you can find it very difficult to convince such a lady to believe in you. Ladies love someone that is soft, caring and sympathetic. Ladies are weaker than men, so they need somebody that is soft, not somebody that will flay up upon little provocation. No lady will like to marry a man that will be giving her the beating of her life.
3- Be Caring, Loving And Humorous: Love the lady in question, never cease telling her how much you love her. Of course you have to also show her you love her and one of the best ways to love is by giving. You should also be caring, let her know that her happiness is your concern. Take her out for shopping, to the parks, cinema, live shows and other numerous places to have fun together. Show much interest in affairs that she is involved, in a way to make her feel better and safe whenever she is with you. Lastly, be a funny, crack joke that is matured not just dry jokes.
4- Share Your Future With Her: Let her know what your plans for tomorrow are like; get her involved, if you can. This will help in given her that sense that she truly belongs to you. You should also know that ladies are synonymous with doubt, by making her part of the plans; she will not doubt you much.
5- Be Good To Her Friends In The Way You Can: Carry some of her friends that believe in you along. Crack jokes and visit them together, but never let them know how far you have gone with the lady; unless if both of you or you are sure that no third party can harm your relationship. Her friends should not know about your future, handle it with utmost secrecy.
6- Don’t Keep Double Relationship At This Time: You don’t need any game, flirting or any of the like things, as you can call it. All you need is concentration on what you need from the lady and never allow your mouth to keep shut, keep telling her what you want. No amount of times you will tell her what you need from her that is too much. You should not even let her know about your past affairs, as that can do you more harm than good.
7- Make Her Your Closest Friend At This Time: This will help you in numerous ways; it will help you know how she responds to your advances. It will again help you keep watch on her, to know if she loves someone else. It will also let her know that you are serious and that you also care about her. It will also help both of you to know each other very well.
8- Never Even Talk About Sex, Until You’ve Known Her Opinion: Your discussions about sex and or romance should be with high degree of care, until you have known her view about it. It will do you more harm than good if she gets bored talking of sex and you have great passion about it. Don’t also persuade her into sex with you, get her for yourself first and every other thing shall be added unto you.
>>Fast Marriage Tips For Ladies.
The tips revealed are like rules governing the game of marriage. You must play according to the rules to achieve the desired aim. Marriage has been in existence as old as the earth itself. Because marriage is highly competitive it has to be planned with utmost care. ‘‘Another man’s food is another man’s poison’’ is widely acceptable, but the question now is why are beautiful, pretty and intelligent ladies left unmarried for the rest of their life? This calls for sober reflection. These tips are no magic, though as long as you believe and work in accordance with these tips; it will unchain you from the shackles of husbandlessness. These tips are for ladies who are determined to have a husband, either now or in the near future. The tips are as follows:
1- Look Neat And Good Always: How neat are you? As a lady neatness should be your watchword. It costs nothing to be neat. Your hair, clothes (both the top and the under ones), teeth and nails for instance, should be properly and frequently taken care of. It is not attracting to behold a lady with unkempt hair, clothes, or nails. No right thinking man will even associate himself with such a lady, talk not of asking her if she is searching for whom to marry or who to marry her? Use ladies’ deodorant (to take care of you armpit), perfume or body spray of your choice if you can afford it. Look neat, smell good and believe me you are halfway done-it creates first impression.
2- Smile Always: How often do you smile? Smiling is good, it’s attracting, it’s inviting. Actually, smiling is good for your health and prolongs your life. It will not cost you anything to smile. When you don’t smile as a lady, it makes you unapproachable. A young man may want to know you but finds it difficult to talk to you the moment he looks at your face. You can brighten up someone’s face with just a smile. Look, do you know how a lady looks when she smiles, she looks totally innocent; men will attest to this.
3- Be Kindhearted At least To An Extent: Ask yourself this question; are my kindhearted to my neighbors, mates at school, colleagues at workplace and to people in general? As a lady being kind to your fellow humans will also guarantee how quick you will get a suitor. This implies that no man will engage in life lasting relationship with a lady, if he sees her treat others in a way that is not kind or he found out that she derives joy from treating people unkindly. Men generally love ladies that is cool, easy going and soft, to spend quality time with after the hustling and bustling of the day.
4- Let There Be Limit In Your Relationship: I mean in courtship, (ladies) it should not be much of romantic. Emphasis should not be much on sex, because sex is worth waiting for the right time. If a wife serves her husband dinner in the morning, I wonder what she will serve him when the time for dinner eventually comes. Ladies, your body is all you’ve got and so should be guarded with every strength and wisdom you have.
5- Don’t Be Much Religious, Denominational, Sentimental Or Racial: The more of the a fore mentioned you are, as a lady the more the limitations you expose yourself to
How could you as a lady reject a man just because he is not of the same religion,
denomination or race with you? After rejecting your suitors, due to some flimsy
excuses you will still complain, that your Mr. right is not forth coming.If you can't change the situation, change yourself, I mean your mindset. This life is short
to wait too long, think about it.
6- When Mr. Right Is Not Forth Coming, Go For Mr. Potential: There’s nothing
like already made husband, you have a role to play in his life which no lady can
do competitively with you. That Young man is incomplete without you, everything
is not well with him. His problem is that there’s no single (you) in him. Go with him, he has all it takes, the most beautiful city or the strongest economy was
not built in a day. The earlier the better and to delay like the saying goes is dangerous.
7- Never Compare Your Friend's Wedding Ceremony Or Husband with Yours:D0 not compare you suitor with any of your friends husband or expect your wedding to be graced by high dignitaries, when you know that your parents not even any of your relations is a congressman.tell yourself a simple truth, do you want to get married or are you fantasizing what is not obtainable? the time to stop is now. I don't say you should not aim high, but be time conscious.
1- Look Neat And Good Always: How neat are you? As a lady neatness should be your watchword. It costs nothing to be neat. Your hair, clothes (both the top and the under ones), teeth and nails for instance, should be properly and frequently taken care of. It is not attracting to behold a lady with unkempt hair, clothes, or nails. No right thinking man will even associate himself with such a lady, talk not of asking her if she is searching for whom to marry or who to marry her? Use ladies’ deodorant (to take care of you armpit), perfume or body spray of your choice if you can afford it. Look neat, smell good and believe me you are halfway done-it creates first impression.
2- Smile Always: How often do you smile? Smiling is good, it’s attracting, it’s inviting. Actually, smiling is good for your health and prolongs your life. It will not cost you anything to smile. When you don’t smile as a lady, it makes you unapproachable. A young man may want to know you but finds it difficult to talk to you the moment he looks at your face. You can brighten up someone’s face with just a smile. Look, do you know how a lady looks when she smiles, she looks totally innocent; men will attest to this.
3- Be Kindhearted At least To An Extent: Ask yourself this question; are my kindhearted to my neighbors, mates at school, colleagues at workplace and to people in general? As a lady being kind to your fellow humans will also guarantee how quick you will get a suitor. This implies that no man will engage in life lasting relationship with a lady, if he sees her treat others in a way that is not kind or he found out that she derives joy from treating people unkindly. Men generally love ladies that is cool, easy going and soft, to spend quality time with after the hustling and bustling of the day.
4- Let There Be Limit In Your Relationship: I mean in courtship, (ladies) it should not be much of romantic. Emphasis should not be much on sex, because sex is worth waiting for the right time. If a wife serves her husband dinner in the morning, I wonder what she will serve him when the time for dinner eventually comes. Ladies, your body is all you’ve got and so should be guarded with every strength and wisdom you have.
5- Don’t Be Much Religious, Denominational, Sentimental Or Racial: The more of the a fore mentioned you are, as a lady the more the limitations you expose yourself to
How could you as a lady reject a man just because he is not of the same religion,
denomination or race with you? After rejecting your suitors, due to some flimsy
excuses you will still complain, that your Mr. right is not forth coming.If you can't change the situation, change yourself, I mean your mindset. This life is short
to wait too long, think about it.
6- When Mr. Right Is Not Forth Coming, Go For Mr. Potential: There’s nothing
like already made husband, you have a role to play in his life which no lady can
do competitively with you. That Young man is incomplete without you, everything
is not well with him. His problem is that there’s no single (you) in him. Go with him, he has all it takes, the most beautiful city or the strongest economy was
not built in a day. The earlier the better and to delay like the saying goes is dangerous.
7- Never Compare Your Friend's Wedding Ceremony Or Husband with Yours:D0 not compare you suitor with any of your friends husband or expect your wedding to be graced by high dignitaries, when you know that your parents not even any of your relations is a congressman.tell yourself a simple truth, do you want to get married or are you fantasizing what is not obtainable? the time to stop is now. I don't say you should not aim high, but be time conscious.
>>Long Lasting Relationship.
There is nothing like sure formula for a happy relationship. The people in any given relationship determine the future of that relationship. A relationship defines the moral status of the people involved and magnifies not the individual but their shared characteristics. Although there are no single or absolute ingredients that will make a relationship lasting, though there are some rules that will help guide you before engaging in any relationship. These rules are as follows:
1- Relationships are simply unlimited. You must not continue to stay together even if it is taking away the best of your time, to make a happy relationship. A happy relationship is self-nurturing, brings out your best potential and unselfish.It is strongly advised, not treat every relationship as your last hope. Relationships are kept to be enjoyed be enjoyed. Do not sacrifice your future for you relationship.
2- You must understand that you are a person with individuality. Your life must not be dependent on your partner.Relationship made to be shared together and not become the basis of your existence. Be your self and never lose it in the course of the whole relationship. Accept what you believe in and what you value, anything less than that do not accept.
3- Watch your relationship patterns. Do not continue choosing the same kind of people over and over again. Evaluate your past relationships and identify what was wrong, use it as a basis for making choosing your partner. Some qualities may not be right for you. Choose the person wisely, be in love for the right reasons.I mean if you must love, love something that is lovable.
4- Always express your feelings, but this must be in a right way. Developing open communication skills will also better the lots of your relationship. It is one of the way to ensure you do not get into misunderstandings. Be vocal but tactful in expressing your feelings and at the same time be sensitive to your partner's feelings.
5- Keep watch on the signs. True and Fake affection are easy to perceive. If your partner shows signs of not being true, do not be afraid to confront the truth. It might save you weeks, months or even years of misery. This will also help your partner, to adjust his ways if it was done out of misconception.
6- You must also believe that not all relationships last. There will be times when you might encounter a failed relationship, take it with good heart. I mean, Cry and be over with it. Do not over indulge much in your misery but instead move on. Make use the experience and knowledge that you gathered in your past to do better you future relationship.
7- Do not take things for guaranteed, know you responsibilities and rights. This will be a yard stick for measuring or justifying your claim whenever you confront your partner with his suspected infidelity, as the case may be.You must be careful as this does not allow you not to accept you partner's inadequacies.
1- Relationships are simply unlimited. You must not continue to stay together even if it is taking away the best of your time, to make a happy relationship. A happy relationship is self-nurturing, brings out your best potential and unselfish.It is strongly advised, not treat every relationship as your last hope. Relationships are kept to be enjoyed be enjoyed. Do not sacrifice your future for you relationship.
2- You must understand that you are a person with individuality. Your life must not be dependent on your partner.Relationship made to be shared together and not become the basis of your existence. Be your self and never lose it in the course of the whole relationship. Accept what you believe in and what you value, anything less than that do not accept.
3- Watch your relationship patterns. Do not continue choosing the same kind of people over and over again. Evaluate your past relationships and identify what was wrong, use it as a basis for making choosing your partner. Some qualities may not be right for you. Choose the person wisely, be in love for the right reasons.I mean if you must love, love something that is lovable.
4- Always express your feelings, but this must be in a right way. Developing open communication skills will also better the lots of your relationship. It is one of the way to ensure you do not get into misunderstandings. Be vocal but tactful in expressing your feelings and at the same time be sensitive to your partner's feelings.
5- Keep watch on the signs. True and Fake affection are easy to perceive. If your partner shows signs of not being true, do not be afraid to confront the truth. It might save you weeks, months or even years of misery. This will also help your partner, to adjust his ways if it was done out of misconception.
6- You must also believe that not all relationships last. There will be times when you might encounter a failed relationship, take it with good heart. I mean, Cry and be over with it. Do not over indulge much in your misery but instead move on. Make use the experience and knowledge that you gathered in your past to do better you future relationship.
7- Do not take things for guaranteed, know you responsibilities and rights. This will be a yard stick for measuring or justifying your claim whenever you confront your partner with his suspected infidelity, as the case may be.You must be careful as this does not allow you not to accept you partner's inadequacies.
>>What You Must Know Before Marriage.
If you, like many, have a concern about your freedom, but need to move through it to establish a "home", here is some advice aimed at the space-loving creatures who are afraid couple-life might stint their individuality!
As with any couple-decision like moving in together, it is important to discuss your fears with the other party before making a decision. If you're used to having your freedom and to spending time alone, let the other person know. Maybe they're in the same situation. This will go a very long way in strengthening or helping your relationship.
Either way, you need to make it clear that your success as a couple depends on enough space to live your life as you'd like it. I have encountered all sorts of couples - some are together, living in each others laps 24 hours a day. They only see friends together, eat the same things at the same time, watch the same TV shows.
There are other couples who - for example - define certain times to be separate (I mean alone). If you need time to decompress after your day and you don't want someone bothering you the second you come in the door - negotiate it. I know a couple who defines that the guy needs to watch about 1/2 to 1 hour of TV when he gets home and he doesn't like being distracted with questions. With this need established, his girlfriend knows to just leave him alone. With this understanding from the girl it saves the relationship the unnecessary misunderstanding it might spark in their relationship.
In this way, each preserves their interests and individuality. Time at home can be spent each doing his own thing, if that's what you want. Go ahead and discuss with your partner and believe me, the result will be unbelievable.
Otherwise, another strategy can be to pick nights when each of you has activities - sports, friends, family engagements. If it's understood that you do these things separately, then each time he goes out, you get a quiet evening alone.
Living together doesn't mean you're glued to the other person. It's a question of how you manage the situation. In fact, sometimes you can actually gain more freedom this way - gaining the time you once spent ferrying between two apartments.
There is a serious adjustment period when you move in with someone during which time you develop patterns in which each of you is comfortable. It will take a few fights to define who cleans what, who listens to what music when and what volume the TV is. But this is just a phase. If you negotiate intelligently and partner is open to your needs, you'll find a happy medium.
To Start You Must Do These:
1- Present your fears openly. Make sure the other person understands it's not a personal attack on your relationship, but rather a worry about how to keep your individuality. Maybe they're worried too - you don't know until you talk about it.
Your partner is not a mind reader neither are you, to secure your future - talk this differences out.
2- Intelligently set things up so that you won't get claustrophobic. Living with someone takes adjustment - there is compromise and a bit of work at first. But you can come out of this phase with what you want - I am certain of it! It may not be easy at first but it will be O.K, it's just a matter of time.
To conclude, a wise person once said to me, "In life, you don't get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate." I think this applies very well to this type of situation. Good luck!
As with any couple-decision like moving in together, it is important to discuss your fears with the other party before making a decision. If you're used to having your freedom and to spending time alone, let the other person know. Maybe they're in the same situation. This will go a very long way in strengthening or helping your relationship.
Either way, you need to make it clear that your success as a couple depends on enough space to live your life as you'd like it. I have encountered all sorts of couples - some are together, living in each others laps 24 hours a day. They only see friends together, eat the same things at the same time, watch the same TV shows.
There are other couples who - for example - define certain times to be separate (I mean alone). If you need time to decompress after your day and you don't want someone bothering you the second you come in the door - negotiate it. I know a couple who defines that the guy needs to watch about 1/2 to 1 hour of TV when he gets home and he doesn't like being distracted with questions. With this need established, his girlfriend knows to just leave him alone. With this understanding from the girl it saves the relationship the unnecessary misunderstanding it might spark in their relationship.
In this way, each preserves their interests and individuality. Time at home can be spent each doing his own thing, if that's what you want. Go ahead and discuss with your partner and believe me, the result will be unbelievable.
Otherwise, another strategy can be to pick nights when each of you has activities - sports, friends, family engagements. If it's understood that you do these things separately, then each time he goes out, you get a quiet evening alone.
Living together doesn't mean you're glued to the other person. It's a question of how you manage the situation. In fact, sometimes you can actually gain more freedom this way - gaining the time you once spent ferrying between two apartments.
There is a serious adjustment period when you move in with someone during which time you develop patterns in which each of you is comfortable. It will take a few fights to define who cleans what, who listens to what music when and what volume the TV is. But this is just a phase. If you negotiate intelligently and partner is open to your needs, you'll find a happy medium.
To Start You Must Do These:
1- Present your fears openly. Make sure the other person understands it's not a personal attack on your relationship, but rather a worry about how to keep your individuality. Maybe they're worried too - you don't know until you talk about it.
Your partner is not a mind reader neither are you, to secure your future - talk this differences out.
2- Intelligently set things up so that you won't get claustrophobic. Living with someone takes adjustment - there is compromise and a bit of work at first. But you can come out of this phase with what you want - I am certain of it! It may not be easy at first but it will be O.K, it's just a matter of time.
To conclude, a wise person once said to me, "In life, you don't get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate." I think this applies very well to this type of situation. Good luck!
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